Event topic: Positive Mascunility After Harm
Date: Wednesday, July 15th, 2026
Link: Leader’s Studio
Tomorrow, Wednesday at noon Eastern Time and 7 pm East Africa Time, I will join Todd Karges PCC, CPCC for a Leaders Studio conversation that is dear to my heart. Todd and I will explore what happens to positive masculinity when it has been shaped by harm, silence, survival, or the misuse of power.
Why Positive Masculinity Matters
I am the founder of Lifesong Kenya, a restorative justice initiative based in Kajiado County that supports vulnerable boys and young men rebuilding their lives after conflict with the law, trauma, exploitation, violence, and sexual abuse. Through our Halfway House, we provide housing, counseling, education, and skills training—creating space for healing, accountability, and transformation. LifeSong Kenya is recognized by the Department of Children Services, Kajiado County, and we collaborate with police, probation officers, chiefs, social workers, and shelters across multiple networks.
This conversation is deeply personal for me. I grew up without a father. That absence left me timid, shy, and wrestling with low self-esteem. I carry the wound of fatherlessness in my own story, and it is what drives me to show up for the young men we serve—helping them heal, regain their strength, and rewrite their stories through the lens of positive masculinity.
In this Leaders Studio, Todd Karges and I will bring together my frontline experience in restorative justice and his work coaching leaders through complexity, power, and repair. We will explore what Positive Masculinity looks like in practice: strength without domination, accountability without shame, and what restorative practices can teach leaders in organizations and communities everywhere.
About Todd Karges
Todd Karges is a professional coach and facilitator dedicated to supporting leaders in navigating complexity, power, and repair. He holds credentials as a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation and as a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) with the Co-Active Training Institute.
Through his practice at Being Human Leaders and and the Leaders Studio, Todd works with leaders across organizations and communities to develop the courage and skills they need to create conditions for truth, accountability, repair and reintegration. Todd’s Leaders Studio series brings different leaders and individuals to share their lived experiences and unique leadership approaches that makes our world a better place to live in.
“Todd Karges has been a game-changer in my professional journey. Under his guidance I tackled imposter syndrome head-on, fine-tuned my time management and excelled in influencing stakeholders at work. My work with Todd has propelled my career forward.”
— Henry E. – Product Manager and Entrepreneur
My Thoughts On Positive Masculinity
I believe that Positive Masculinity is not about perfection. It is about the courage to face our wounds, take responsibility of our own healing and build something better, for ourselves and for the next generation. Every group of people experiences harm, rupture, defensiveness, silence, and exclusion differently. The question is whether we have the courage and the skills to create conditions for truth, accountability, repair and reintegration that brings dignity, honor and respect to individuals who have experienced harm.
If you are a leader, a coach, a mentor, or someone who cares about what healthy manhood can look like after harm, this conversation is for you. Join us as we explore positive masculinity in action and what it takes to lead with both strength and humility.
Join Us and Stand With Lifesong Kenya
This conversation about positive masculinity after harm is just the beginning. The real work happens every day at our Halfway House for boys in Kenya, where boys and young men are choosing healing over harm, accountability over avoidance and purpose over despair.
I would like to invite you to take two meaningful steps:
- Watch and engage with Todd Karges and I live tomorrow. Bring your questions, your stories and your curiosity. This important conversation belongs to all of us. Let’s engage, deepen the learning and explore what positive mascunility is beyond engaging online. Join us here: youtube.com/watch?v=rRfRzxNBZLU
- Support LifeSong Kenya’s mission. Whether through partnership, volunteering as a coach, mentor, fundraiser or grants writer, funding or simply sharing our story with your network and community, your support helps us to reach more boys and young men who need a place for their healing and restoration. Donate here: Housing for Boys Facing Trauma and Stigma
Together, we can build a world where every boy—regardless of his background or brokenness—has access to the love, guidance and opportunity he needs to become a man who contibutes towards positive masculinity. If you would like to learn more about how you can support our work, please reach out to me or connect with Todd Karges. We would be honored to have you walk this incredible journey of healing and restoration with us.
